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September 4, 2019

Wailea, Maui

Today's Meeting
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Meeting Opened at 12:00 p.m.
Inspiration by Gary
  • 76% of adults who volunteer say they feel healthier!
  • Do not question the value of volunteers.
  • Noah's Arc was built by volunteers.
  • The Titanic was built by professionals.
  • Think about that for a minute.
Hawaiian Word of the Day:  Iao Valley=“Cloud Supreme”, dense rainforest; god Kane is considered the procreator and provider of clouds, rain, springs; Kanaloa, god of the underworld is represented by the phallic stone of the Iao Needle; site of Kepaniwai battle (“the damming of the waters”—with the blood of the warriors) which Kamehameha won. In our “small kid time” on Maui, we said Kamehameha sat on the top of the Iao Needle and said, EEEoooowww! (But what do kids know????)

Introduction of Guests:

Lew Tobin: Nome, Alaska

Jannah Bailey: Montgomery, Alabama, Sunrise

Garry Parlier: Folsom Rotary Club, CA

Rob Sanville: Santa Rosa, CA Sunrise Club

Allel & Gloria Carballar: Santa Rosa, CA Sunrise Club

Jeffrey Rummel: Santa Rosa, CA Sunrise Club

Wes Morris: Yakama, WA Southwest

Gordon Dunbar: Perth, Australia

Ken Stuart

Fred Ferrera

Maui minute Lew Tobin from Nome, Alaska has fond memories of his first visit to Mama’s Fish House, the delicious (and expensive) dinner, and the beautiful ambiance and view.

Announcements

  • Mini-District Assembly Saturday, 9/21, 8 am–noon at Kihei Charter School. There will be a session on Membership followed by a Foundation/Grant session. The $10 fee will be paid by the club. We need representation there in order to secure Grants in the future and also to give our newer members info about Rotary on Maui. Mark H, Elizabeth and Joanne will be attending.
     

  • School Supply Drive is Sept 21st at Safeway, one door only. Please be on time for your shift and stay until the end of your shift and get a sub if you cannot attend
    Check your email from Joanne with some wish-list items from Lokelani teachers. 
     

  • Pau Hana 9/25 at 5 pm on the lawn at the north end of Kamaole III beach.
     

  • Joe Mitchell newly returned from Mexico, and Jannah from Alabama , Montgomery Sunrise club, presented President Joanne with flags from those respective clubs and received our flag.
     

  • Hawaii Rotary Youth Foundation Scholarship Fund Smita followed up on her email about donations to the Hawaii Rotary Youth Foundation (HRYF). Our club receives $5,000 every year from HRYF for a scholarship to a graduating Kihei Charter School senior after they've applied and, along with other applicants, has been interviewed by our scholarship team and chosen to receive the scholarship. The HRYF was founded by “Sully” Sullivan, the founder of Foodland, during his year as the Rotary’s Hawaii District Governor, 1976-1977. This year, donations made at a Foodland checkout, will be matched. Here's how to help:

  1. Using Organization Code #77199, show your Maika`i Card and make your tax-deductible donation to HRYF (up to $249 per person) at any Foodland, Sack N. Save or Foodland Farms checkout from September 1-30, 2019. Please check to make sure that the HRYF name appears on the receipt.

  2.  Foodland and the Western Union Foundation will donate a matching gift percentage of between 20-25%.

  3.  Give a copy of the receipt to your Club Donation Rep or email a copy to office@hawaiirotaryyouthfoundation.org.Please be sure to include your name and club for credit to your HRYF contribution account. Foodland does not provide the donor’s name so please help by sending in your receipt.

Club donates books to Kamali'i library
John Moore  recently delivered books to the Kamali'i Library.
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Mediation and Conflict Resolution
Tricia Morris
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September 4, 2019

Wailea, Maui

Tricia wants to help people avoid litigation or get out of litigation that has already begun, because it's much easier, cheaper and less emotionally damaging to resolve issues by calling a mediator before calling a lawyer.

Tricia told us what mediation and conflict resolution are and what they are not, and who can benefit from them. She gave us a good overview of the breadth, depth and scope of mediation, which she said empowers the participants. 

In litigation people don't like each other when they start and hate each other when they finish. In contrast, mediation empowers people to make their own decisions and the resolution enhances relationships and preserves good will.

When someone is in emotional turmoil about a relationship, a family member, their business or finances, it's critically important that they know their options. When someone calls Tricia, she explains the appropriate options,  mediation, arbitration, litigation, collaborative law, and others. After learning about the situation, she refers about 60% of callers to a professional with specialized expertise matching the client's needs, like another mediator, the mediation center, or a lawyer.
 
A mediator is a neutral, licensed professional who has had hundred of hours of training. When needed, mediators will bring in neutral professionals such as lawyers, accountants, certified divorce financial analysts, business evaluators, and therapists. This can be much less expensive than each party having their own battling experts and adding a third neutral one. Sometimes lawyers and judges try to mediate, but they have not had the hundreds of hours of training and practice required for the license which helps ensure expertise. Mediation has a 95% success rate. Depending on how much animosity people begin with, it may take six to nine months to get them to start talking with each other. Mediation usually resolves most of the issues between parties, but some remaining issues may still need to be litigated. 

Mediation agreements are contracts filed in court by attorneys and are legal and enforceable.

Mediation can be very useful many areas such as:

Trusts, estates and eldercare: It's important for elders to have their wishes recorded while they are still clearheaded, but later, mediation can be an way to regain family peace when trusts and wills are challenged by heirs who have differences about how to care for their parents and their housing needs, managing the estate, etc. 

Medical malpractice: This is another area where mediation is very helpful. A Chicago hospital saved $65 million last year by using mediation to resolve medical error problems. 

 

Construction: On Oahu there are mediators with thousands of hours of experience resolving disputes arising in the construction business. 

Pre-marriage mediation can help couples anticipate challenges in daily life (find out what each one likes and can do, and negotiate what nobody wants to do), and how they want to raise children, in anticipation rather than trying to do therapy to heal past injuries after the fact.

 

Divorce and custody. You can get divorced in a weekend with mediation, as opposed to a year and half of the financial and emotional costs of litigation. 30% of the divorce process is legal, the rest is financial and emotional. 

 

Sexual harassment.

 

Insurance disputes: There is potential for mediation to be used in government, but it does require that both parties want the issue to be resolved. 


Contact Tricia at 808 283-7811 or Tricia@TriciaMorris.com
 

Happy Dollars: Bless Young.   
 
  • Jannah from Alabama is happy to be on Maui and visiting her 5-year-old grandchild.
  • Joe Mitchell is happy to be back from his world travels

Acts of Kindness

Sally helped a customer outside Lowe’s clean up  his truck from some spillage.

Elizabeth, upon seeing her renter’s very dirty car after being gone a month, broke out the hose and washed it for her.

Flag Exchanges Joanne swapped flags with Jannah Baileyof the Montgomery, Alabama, Sunrise club and accepted two that Joe brought back from San Miguel de Allende, Mexico.

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Elizabeth, received the District 5000

2018-19 Quiet Rotarian award from Joanne.

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Magic Marble

Pot Amount: $1,000+   Marbles left: 4 blue, 1 gold

Mark Harbison held the bag for Gary who picked a blue one! Better luck next time!

Appreciation: Thanks to the members who helped out today John, Mark, Barry, Sally, Paige, Bess, Charlotte, Stu, and Smita, Lew, Joe.
Our guest speaker next meeting on Wednesday, 10/2 will be Debra Greene, PhD, Founder of KeepYourPower
Our  Pau Hana is our once-a-month opportunity to bring a friend or colleague to our gathering for some Talk Story and get to know us better. Bring someone on 9/25 to Kamaole III!
In the World of Wild and Wacky Commemoration Days:  … drum roll please…
  • National Ceiling Fan Day: Trevor Noah’s first joke at the MACC last year was…”you know you’re on Maui when spouses don’t argue about who has the TV remote—but who controls the Ceiling Fan remote!  
     
  • National Cheeseburger Day: or at Burger King—it’s their veggie Impossible burger that’s getting attention!

4 Way Test:  Joe Mitchell

 

Stu—Sang us out the door at 12:55 pm.

Mahalo nui loa--Thank you very much  and a hui hou! --until we meet again.

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